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The constant grey skies this season, in a city that has promised to live up to its "Sunny San Diego"reputation, have kept my mood a bit on the bland side. Having foodie fun with friends has kept me from falling into a total slump by giving me something favorable to look forward to when sunny skies are not an option. I always get excited by the possibilities that await when experiencing a new restaurant, my interest is continuously piqued while donning my explorer hat in search of new favorites to add to my list . First I am instantly intrigued by the ambience, next by the staff, and finally by the food. When all three of these line up together a harmonious memory is made. I am happy to say my mouth made some wonderful memories this month and I am eager to share with you some edible highlights. A.R. Valentien (La Jolla) Located in The Lodge at Torrey Pines, this fine dining establishment provides a perfect ambience to celebrate a special occasion. Overlooking the resort's pool and golf course, the views are quite striking. The service staff is attentive and accommodating to dietary restrictions. The kitchen masterfully delivers aesthetically stunning presentations of dishes. Despite these wins, there are some downfalls. I really hoped to love this place. Although we tasted some outstanding creations (like the coconut carrot soup topped with savory granola and kafir lime; and the charred torpedo agnnolotti with morel mushrooms and mascarpone) other items were disappointing. The roasted beets with pistachio butter were drenched in a heavy sauce and the Alaskan halibut oddly tasted like unseasoned dry chicken. Some of the ingredients used are quite dense, this coupled with the heat emitted from the heating lamps were making it hard for me to keep my eyes open. I don't like that overly full feeling after eating. I felt weighed down and sadly passed on dessert. I wouldn't give up on A.R. Valentien entirely. There is a lot of promise here. My recommendation is to reserve an indoor table at one of the intimate banquette tables for a romantic date night, and stick to cocktails (the mezcal old fashioned is fantastic) and dessert. I would go back here for post dinner drinks to enjoy the sultry interior and top-notch artistic presentation of the food. MARKET Restuarant & Bar (Del Mar) MARKET easily offers one of the most reasonably priced three-course dinners, at $79 per person, along with a pretty remarkable menu that changes monthly, in a romantically dim setting that includes black-out shades to ward off any hint of sunlight. Yes, the chef changes the menu here regularly to keep it seasonably charged and to keep its customers coming back for new inventive dishes. The dining room was packed during our entire visit with more diners eagerly waiting to be sat as we finished our meal. Some of the delicious items on the menu, which we savored, are the chilled avocado and roasted chili soup with a sweet corn tamale pancake and tomato sorbet; lobster tomato soup with sweet peppers, creme fraiche, and sourdough crumbs; tempura soft-shell crab over green papaya-mango salad, lemongrass-coconut sauce with aioli and cashews; roasted sea bass with artichoke ratatouille, garlic whipped potatoes and tomato fondue; and a local grass-fed tenderloin filet with a twice baked potato. These were all delicious! Be prepared to complete your already stellar meal with a fantastic finish that includes creamy pistachio tres leches and a decadent chocolate Napolean. Valet is the only parking option and costs $6.00 without a validation option. Totally worth the cost to park in order to embark on a perfectly executed culinary adventure. Adelaide (Del Mar) Set inside the beautifully renovated lobby of the L'Auberge, Adelaide equally attracts both locals and out-of-towners to its open-aired, sun-kissed, modernly designed restaurant that boasts gorgeous ocean views. This hotel restaurant is one of my go-to's and I've realistically eaten here more than a dozen times. I just find the well integrated, modern decor very alluring. The emphasis on seafood and in-season veggies is equally appealing. Some of my favorites here are the heirloom tomatoes & burrata salad topped with basil and salsa verde (the tomatoes are pure heaven!); the Peri Peri shrimp lettuce cup with pickled vegetables and jalapeno-lime aioli; the hamachi crudo spiced with Calabrian chili, ponzu, scallion, and jalapeno; and the lentil cakes that sandwich a dill yogurt and top a pea puree. I always leave here assured that I have eaten food that is healthy, high in protein, and light on carbs. Oh, and the bar always delivers a mean cocktail. That's my kind of meal! The Fairmont Grand (Del Mar) I can't think of a better way to celebrate the weekend than with an elegant afternoon tea in the opulent lobby of this majestic hotel. The Grand serves high tea every Saturday and Sunday from 12:00 pm - 4:00 pm with a grandiose offering of teas, finger sandwiches, scones, and petit fours. The kitchen is extremely accommodating to dietary restrictions and will happily concoct custom-made bites to please your palate. This one's a keeper, you'll find yourself ready to make another return reservation as soon as you leave. The Kitchen (The Museum of Contemporary Art San Diego in La Jolla) Outside of the Museum of Contemporary Art lies a lovely courtyard for outdoor dining amidst a pretty garden. The menu is impressive with plenty of options to satisfy your breakfast and lunch cravings. This is a great local establishment to meet friends in a nice setting while catching up over good food. In fact, the menu has so many wonderful options I had a hard time choosing what to eat. I ultimately decided on a salmon bagel plate (which I devoured) and a perfectly creamy latte, made just the way I like it. This may become my new regular meeting place with the gal pals for early shenanigans together. Greenfinch (La Jolla) Tucked inside the hacienda-style resort of Estancia, the arches and courtyards along the property will lead you to Greenfinch for a lovely meal. The interior space boasts a contemporary design with tasteful aviary-inspired touches. There is also a lovely terrace overlooking the courtyard for those who prefer to dine al fresco. They offer a really good brunch menu with a large selection of food options that are all presented with careful attention to detail. Their jaw-dropping pancake charcuterie tower had us all crowding around it to photograph the display, almost too attractive to eat. The plates are colorful and each one is unique to the others used at the table, bringing together a burst of color to the neutral tones of the space. You may appreciate that a protein shake is on the menu, along with a wide selection of cocktails for those who prefer a boozy brunch. You'll find plenty of enticing dishes to choose from as you linger in the comfortable seating and ease into your Sunday. My list of restaurants to delve into continues to accumulate, leaving me optimistic and giddy. There are just so many outstanding options in San Diego and I'm starting to realize I may not get to them all in one lifetime, although I am certainly up for the challenge! Despite the cloudy skies, I'm quite lucky to live here. Just looking at the egg yolks in the photo above, reminds me of little suns. That's the beauty of combining well-used ingredients, they can take you back to a different time, or a different place, and even bring you sunshine on a cloudy day.

When we moved to San Diego one and a half years ago I was worried that we would be leaving behind the irreplaceable food scene that New York City is known for. Boy was I wrong. There are countless outstanding restaurants throughout San Diego and more continue to pop up on the foodie scene each month. One of the key components leading to the incredible array of dining options in this city stems from access to unparalleled fresh ingredients grown right here, in California. Combining locally grown produce, wild-caught seafood, and extremely talented chefs naturally results in a delicious selection of plenty of places to please your palate. I welcome you to dive into my March dining journey with me. Addison (Del Mar) Tucked in Del Mar lies a magical kitchen where food fairies bring otherworldly flavors together through pixie dust and fairy potions. There is no explanation as to how such marvelous concoctions are created in symphonic perfection, except by recognizing that it is nearly impossible for mere mortals to come close to inventing flavors this heavenly. At Addison, the price tag is certainly high ($355 per person), but well worth the enchanting experience that comes along with it. Addison, a three-starred Michelin restaurant takes the San Diego food scene to a whole new level. You don't come here for dinner. You dine here to embark on an elevated journey of superior service, brilliantly artistic dishes (that you'll photograph endlessly before biting into), and masterfully combined ingredients that make for explosive flavors. Throughout the five-hour meal, our table of four had a dedicated wait staff of twelve servers, alternating between courses, so that at the delivery of each dish, or refill of each glass, the ratio was always one server per patron. There are eleven impeccable courses, with an emphasis on Japanese cuisine (although you'll taste hints of Mexican, Thai, and Local seasonings as well). Every single morsel is thoughtfully created to not only burst with flavors but to also be aesthetically stunning. People have asked me what I loved most about dining at Addison. Of course, it is the food that stands out most, but my response is always that I most enjoyed the perfectly illuminated tables that strategically cast a glow over the marvelous presentation of the dishes as well as the synchronized serving of each plate and pour because these two seemingly small details play a big role in the execution of an ultimate gastronomical expedition. The menu, the colors, the flavors, the ingredients, the ambiance, the plates, the service, the lighting... all extraordinary. Reservations are fully booked three months ahead so plan accordingly. Marisi (La Jolla) A meal at Marisi will immediately whisk you away to the coast of Italy with its lingering scent of roasted tomatoes drifting from the open kitchen and its charming decor, including intricate tilework with hand-drawn lemon trees that are reminiscent of summers in Sorrento. I've dined here several times and have consistently left fully satisfied by the perfectly prepared Italian dishes. Handmade pastas are the stars of the show, along with carefully curated cocktails overseen by a dedicated Bar and Spirits Creative Director who recently worked at a three Michelin-starred restaurant in Napa Valley. The blossoms (a zucchini flower duo stuffed with caponata, pinenuts, and saffron aioli) are a great way to start your meal along with the squid (served with jimmy nardellos, Calabrian chilis, and fingerling potatoes) and burrata salad (topped with pears, almonds, lemon, seven-year balsamic herbs). The salads here are equally delicious, tossed together with the freshest ingredients seasonably available. For pasta, you cannot go wrong with my three favorites: Agnolotti (winter squash, brown butter, ricotta, pumpkin seed), Cappelletti (black truffle, porcini, ricotta), and the Rigatoni (chilis, basil, chilis, pomodoro, and stracciatella). These pasta dishes are seriously outstanding. Although meant to be shared, the plates are quite small - brilliantly leaving diners wanting seconds of everything. Blue Ocean / Harumama (La Jolla) I've heard mixed reviews about Blue Ocean so I decided to give it a try and decide for myself. Upon entering, we were greeted by a very friendly host team who walked us into the expansive space that leads into a back seating area overlooking the Pacific Ocean. The views alone are a worthy reason to dine here although the no-frills, Asian menu is good enough of a reason to visit as well. The menu offers Bao Bao Buns, Ramen bowls, Sushi rolls, Sashimi/Nigiri, and basics like vegetable fried rice and vegetable egg rolls. They have a few vegan options as well. Sadly, the one vegan dish we ordered (The Garden Party Ramen) was the one menu item that we liked least. Otherwise, we had a nice meal here (comprised of vegetable potstickers, vegetable eggrolls, vegetable fried rice, spicy garlic edamame, Power Protein Poke Bowl, and Vegetable Pan-fried Noodles). We especially loved ending our dinner on a sweet note with a couple of the kitschy character buns filled with Nutella and churro custard. Blue Ocean will most please you as a lunch destination. Make sure to ask for a window table. California English (Sorrento Mesa) I was thrilled when I heard that celebrity chef Richard Blais was opening a new restaurant in San Diego. I was certain that I would love his new addition, but unfortunately, I was very disappointed by my experience. The decor is quite striking, with wood accents and neutral-colored velvet banquets and seating. It has the ultimate potential to be swanky but instead, with its glaringly bright lighting the space feels like a cafeteria you'd find at a top Wall Street firm. I guess one can ultimately get over the brightness if the bar served great cocktails, but they don't. My Arsenal (Anejo Tequila / Mezcal / Cucumber / Cilantro / Chambord) tasted like watered-down cucumber juice. Food-wise, the one highlight on the menu is ironically a dish that does not require cooking; the local radishes served over whipped brown butter, are a delight. Otherwise, everyone in our group was underwhelmed by the delivery of what Blais promised to be an unconventional twist on his favorite dishes from his hometown in the UK. Even the fish and chips, a ubiquitous UK staple, are bland. Blais attempts to be creative with this dish by eliminating the traditional accompanying tartare sauce and replacing it with a side of smashed English peas and a side of curry as well. Eh. Perhaps they need a couple of more months to work out their kinks and figure out the lighting and better train the kitchen staff. Despite the excellent press California English is receiving, I say wait out your visit. I am hopeful that they will get it right. Wolf in the Woods (Mission Hills) Wolf in the Woods attracts the most beautiful crowd in San Diego; for a moment I thought I stepped into a bistro in SoHo, or even Paris! The patrons here, varying in ages, are all impeccably dressed adding to the European vibe this intimate eatery exudes. Older gentlemen wear fedoras and blazers and tall, modelesque blondes sip on wines from the restaurant's expansive collection of vino from various corners of the world. Upon first glance tables are placed seemingly too close together yet upon settling into your seat, you'll quickly melt into the candle-lit scenery that provides delicious dishes which celebrate Native American, European, and Hispanic cultures. My favorite dishes here are the New Mexico state fair ribbon potato chips served with a dip made of fresh rosemary, sea salt, and chile crema; the raw yellowtail agua chile prepared with avocado, serrano peppers, shallots watermelon radish, and wildflowers; and the sweet corn and pinon soup topped with chile corn fritters, New Mexican Hatch chili dust, wildflowers, and crushed pinenuts. These are outstanding dishes that burst with dreamy flavors. Their uniquely delicious menu and romanticly chic ambiance make Wolf in the Woods an ideal date night loaded not only with a superior meal but also sprinkled with some people-watching, which I personally love to do. Wolfie's Carousel Bar (Little Italy) San Diego is full of surprises including this whimsical bar/restaurant in Little Italy with an actual carousel serving as the centerpiece of the uniquely playful space. The menu is bistro-French inspired and although the kitchen serves so-so food, the rotating carousel bar and dessert menu delivers an inevitable fun night out. My group ordered oysters, beet and warm goat cheese salad, mushroom croquettes, burger royale, and Parisian gnocchi, which we all agreed were just "ok". However, the beignets served warm, are exceptional and so is the Sunday royale loaded with vanilla ice cream, a waffle cone, and a fluffy ball of cotton candy. Wolfie's is the perfect place to end your evening with a nightcap and a sweet bite. The more I venture out into the different neighborhoods of San Diego on the hunt for great food, the more I fall in love with this city. I can't wait to see what culinary adventures await me in April!

The month of May brought some not-so-great dining experiences my way. However, I won't write about them. Many years ago when I owned my own restaurants in New York City, a Japanese journalist came to feature one of my locations. She told me that in Japan it is not common practice to write subjectively about an establishment because a reporter's negative opinion can jeopardize a business. Following Buddhist principles, in Japan, they steer away from writing anything that can hurt someone's livelihood. This stuck with me. So when I absolutely dislike a restaurant, I don't write about it altogether. Although a couple of restaurants I was really excited about checking out this month failed my expectations, there were several others that brought a wonderful dining adventure into my San Diego culinary journey. Exploring new restaurants has not only provided me with marvelous foodie memories but doing so has also introduced me to many charming neighborhoods in this beautiful city. Eating is more than just digesting, it's a way of life that connects you to other cultures, brings you closer to your dining companions, and gets you into parts of your city that you may not visit otherwise. Let's delve into some of my May discoveries together. Bon Appetito! Mister A's (Bankers Hill) From the moment I stepped into the lobby of the Machester Financial Center I knew that just twelve floors up, a special gourmandizing expedition was awaiting. Upon walking into Mister A's you will be immediately tantalized by the breathtaking 180-degree views of the San Diego skyline, the well-dressed patrons, and the superior attention to detail which includes the staff's uniform matching the blue hue of the table linens. Formal, but not stuffy, the service is on point attending to every detail without interrupting too often. The French-American menu offers a delicious array of options. Our favorites were the beet salad, lobster pot pie, wagyu ribeye, and truffle fries; all outstanding and perfectly prepared. Enjoying a delightful dinner, while overlooking downtown San Diego, and counting the airplanes that make their descent into the nearby airport, as the sun begins to set, with The Gypsy Kings playing in the background, is my idea of a heavenly dinner. Add this to your list. Fort Oak (Mission Hills) This bustling, expansive Mission Hills restaurant, proudly serves wood-fired seafood and a plethora of raw bar options in a non-pretentious environment. Clearly, the focus here is on delivering innovative, clean, and extremely flavorful cuisine. Highlights here are the Kanpachi ceviche prepared in a spicy red curry with peanuts and Thai basil; the albacore poke blended with ponzu, Asian pear, shisho, and furikake crunch; the Ahi tartare perfectly paired with cured egg yolk, crispy shallots, and smoked oyster mayo with a serving of buttered brioche for dipping needs; the hearth roasted carrots mixed with quinoa, pickled fennel, smoky yogurt, and fresh tarragon; and the fire-grilled branzino topped with fried herbs and salsa verde. These are all outstanding options. I recommend avoiding the scallop aguachile- we couldn't get past one bite due to its overwhelming fishy flavor. The service here is very attentive - perhaps too attentive. The waiters kept removing the menu from our table that I wanted nearby. I am sure they just wanted to make more room for all the dishes we were tasting but the cute dance of asking for a menu that kept being taken away got a little annoying. However, they did call us two days later to notify us that my husband left his sunglasses there and loyally held onto them until we were able to pick them up a couple of weeks later. Overall, we had a superb time eating here and I was constantly amazed by how well-prepared, healthy, and delicious each dish was. Sandpiper Wood Fired Grill & Oysters (La Jolla Shores) Although the ambiance is a little lacking here, mainly because it was empty, every bite of each dish we ordered off the menu was truly fantastic. The kitchen takes pride in its wood-fired creations, which are actually a specialty here. The crispy shrimp, charred cabbage, and corn cake skillet are out-of-this-world kind of good. I could not get myself to ignore my knowledge to share fairly with our dinner guests; I had no control over my fork pulling itself towards the plates and back into my mouth. The homemade pappardelle in mushroom ragu is also a solid option while the Baja striped sea bass offered a lot of promise but was a tad too dry. The major con here is that our table was stripped down by 9:15 pm by the eager staff wanting to go home. In my opinion, when you add a 5% surcharge to the check, you do not kick out your patrons. That being said, make an early reservation and you won't hit this hiccup, perhaps earlier there are more diners to liven up the space as well. Hidden Fish (Convoy Street) Hidden Fish is a hidden gem. This tiny thirteen-person sushi bar serves an extraordinary sixty-minute, eighteen-piece, Omakase at $135 per person. Enjoy the freshest seafood delivered daily from Japan's best fish markets while watching the sushi chef whip up remarkably creative bites with his impeccably manicured hands. During the omakase, we ate our way through snow crab, sea bream, fluke, barracuda, striped jack, jack mackerel, striped sea bass, golden eye snapper, striped bonito, yellowtail, salmon, albacore, amberjack, black cod, bluefin tuna, uni, O Toro, and tuna tartare. Each bite was sprinkled with its own unique ingredients (like black truffle, yuzu pepper paste, chimi-churri, and roasted sesame seeds. Each delicate piece is meant to be eaten by hand. Although chopsticks are offered, we didn't use them once. Service is stellar with eight people on staff for thirteen guests. We were lucky and had the owner and executive chef serve us which added to the special vibe at the bar. The excellent quality of the ingredients is worth the ticket price although the quick one-hour, in-and-out experience, takes away from the overall mood. There is no lingering around here over a meal. I've been on the prowl for superb sushi in San Diego. Hidden Fish would have ended my hunt if the pace was a little slower and allowed for lurking just a little longer at the sushi bar. DoDo Bird (Bird Rock) This new coffee shop is a welcomed addition to the Bird Rock neighborhood of La Jolla. Adjacent to the swanky Paradisaea eatery, DoDo Bird provides an equally beautiful space in line with the tropical theme next door and highlights a curated selection of donuts (although I am not sure who eats donuts anymore?) This is not your regular local cafe, it's a step up in terms of elegance and it is a great option to hunker down with your laptop and get some work down. Their iced lattes are delicious and the staff is friendly. The only downside is that they are closed on Mondays and Tuesdays, which I learned the hard way by showing up on both of these days to get my caffeine fix. Monarch Ocean Pub (Del Mar) This bar may not be where you'd head in search of an inspiring menu per se, yet it's definitely a place to check out for its lively scene, great ocean views, and just a fun overall vibe. Evenings are packed with the post-office crowd and friends meeting to mingle to throw back some drinks after a long day. Tables with a view are hard to snatch although any seat in the house works just as well for an overall good time. They do not accept reservations. Each month I pinch myself. How lucky am I to live in a city with such a robust culinary scene? My list of restaurants to scope out continues to grow, as does my calorie count, yet I wouldn't have it any other way. I wonder how long it would take me to actually eat through San Diego. This may be a lifelong mission.

April brought many more food adventures my way. The more I explore the San Diego food scene, the more impressed I become by the infinite options of incredible restaurants that are available in this sunny city. Dining out is satisfying on so many levels. It connects us to those we share the table with, it brings us new experiences as we try new flavors and new establishments, and it can even inspire us to cook differently in our own kitchen. I always get excited when I am about to eat somewhere new, or even when I return to one of my favorite restaurants. There is so much that is necessary to make a successful restaurant visit- good conversation, the right lighting, a great playlist at the perfect volume, an appealing atmosphere, great service, and of course, a menu that arouses you and great food that wows you. Now, that's a lot to get right. But when it all comes together perfectly, then I want to share with my readers the restaurants that masterfully balance all aspects of a flawless dining memory. Read below and start making your reservations! Wormwood (North Park) Serving French-influenced dishes, in San Diego's first absinthe-focused cocktail bar, this new-ish restaurant is one not to be missed. Although the plates are small at Wormwood, the flavors are très magnifique. The overall experience at Wormwood is sensational. To begin with, the staff is extremely accommodating. Do you want four pieces of an appetizer that only includes three? No problem! Don't like a cocktail too much? They'll make you a better one! The chef even whipped me up a new recipe because of my odd avocado allergy. Seriously, the service is impeccable. Similarly, the food is next level. Some menu standouts include (in the order shown below from left to right): reglis ova caviar over a delicate shell filled with avocado and lemon mousse betteraves/beet salad that is delicious in its' simplicity using the freshest ingredients tartine aux oignons (the creamiest, dreamiest thing you'll ever eat) fruit de mer with perfectly seared scallops atop tomatillo water, jicama, compressed cucumber, and shrimp chicharrón burgundy black tie with mushroom caramel dark chocolate ganache, white chocolate mousse, mushroom caramel, and cranberry (you must try the combination of mushroom and chocolate at least once in your life) carrottes fumees (not photographed) smoked carrots with poached egg, pea tendrils, and brioche The above dishes are stellar and you'll find yourself wanting to order seconds of them. I know we definitely ordered another round of some but I can't remember which ones! The strong absinthe cocktails blurred my memory just a tad although I certainly haven't forgotten how insanely mouthwatering the entire meal was. Animae (Marina District) When friends come to visit from New York City, this is where I take them. Animae, an Asian-fusion restaurant, is my proud example to my East Coast friends that San Diego also has a superior food scene. The space is sexy with beautiful hues of warm neutrals that permeate the plush velvet banquettes. The dimmed lighting sets the tone to peruse a seductive menu packed with creative combinations of ingredients, that will fill you with a strong desire to order everything that is offered. My recommendation as to what to order here is to honestly order as much as you can share with your table. In my four visits, I have continuously been impressed by each new, creatively crafted dish I have tried. You should take note that Wagyu is the star at Animae and upon our last visit earlier this month, I had my first bite of this rightly so revered Japanese beef. I haven't eaten meat in almost thirty years. Breaking my pescetarianism for this heavenly carnivorous culinary immersion was absolutely worth it! Anyone living in, or visiting, San Diego must dine here. This is one of the swankiest restaurants in town with food that will knock your socks off. CUCINA enoteca (Del Mar) Cucina Enoteca offers a fun, lively atmosphere with a great Italian menu including pizzas made in their woodburning oven (don't miss the mushroom, goat cheese, caramelized onion pizza drizzled with truffle oil!). This spot works well for a date, time with your friends, and even a celebratory occasion. I especially love the many different dining nooks throughout the expansive space. Still, my favorite place to sit is in the large, open, main space that offers communal dining tables in the heart of all the action. The AubreyRose Tea Room (La Mesa) High tea is always a pleasure and The AubreyRose Tea Room knows how to turn it up a notch with some special touches like rose-shaped folded napkins, a room full of hats for those who'd like to borrow one to dress for the occasion, and of course, an inviting assortment of teas, scones, petit fours, and tea sandwiches. Ladies, pick a pal or two and head over for a lovely afternoon with the girls. Haidilao Hotpot (UTC) I can't think of a better way to engage with your dining companions than over a shared hot pot. In a hot pot, you choose one, or more, flavored broths that are kept hot through induction or flame. Then you select from a wide assortment of meats, fish, or veggies to cook in your broth. It's totally interactive and requires active participation in what you'll be eating together. What I especially love about Haidilao Hotpot is how hi-tech it is. To protect your most-prized piece of technology, special bags are provided to seal your phones to safety in case one accidentally ends up in your hot pot. All orders are made on an iPad and delivered by a robot. How cool is that? Haidilao is extremely popular in China and has luckily expanded into the USA. The food is really good. Like, really good. My two absolute favorite broths are the tomato and mushroom ones. There are dozen of dipping options but the ones I always order are the quail eggs and the udon noodles. There is also a condiment bar loaded with options to enhance your dish combinations. To bring a wonderful meal to an end, and ensure everyone leaves extra happy, there is a complimentary soft-serve ice cream machine. This UTC neighborhood eatery delivers loads of flavor and fun! Smokin' Hot Asian Kitchen (La Jolla) This Vietnamese restaurant deserves more attention. The service is friendly, the beachy vibe is appropriate for the neighborhood, and the menu offers some interesting fusion concepts along with traditional foods from the region. I think it's a wonderful place to have lunch that easily helps you get your protein and vegetable count for the day. The menu is packed with protein options (and some more carb-heavy ones too!) The Miso Chilean Sea Bass is outstanding. You'll leave feeling well-satiated, knowing that you made healthy food choices without sacrificing flavor. I've already made my reservations for May's food explorations and can't wait to share with you the restaurants that get it right. Feel free to send any recommendations my way!

February was a fun foodie month for me. The month was filled with repeat visits to some of my favorite spots along with a new discovery as well. Food is such a fantastic way to connect with others. Whether it's with your significant other on a date night, a family member, or your friends, you'll always find that eating a meal with others is a great source of connection with them. Join me on my San Diego February foodie journey by reading ahead. Feel free to drop me a note and share some of your favorite restaurants in San Diego; I just may add them to my list of places to check out and feature them in my future Food Diary posts. Paradisaea This swanky bar opened in the Bird Rock neighborhood of La Jolla just six months ago and is certainly off to a great start. The tropical interior of the historic space is not only uber chic, but it's the kind of place that makes you want to get a bit more dressed up than usual. The large, u-shaped bar is a great spot for perfectly crafted cocktails and delicious appetizers. I've dined here for a full dinner and find it rather expensive for the small portions. However, for just drinks and apps, which will set you back $100 for two drinks and two appetizers (not including tax or gratuity), I do love the scene here and the extremely fresh ingredients used by both mixologists and kitchen staff to deliver some memorable drinks and bites. My favorite dishes here have consistently been the beet salad (this dish is sooooo good) and the tempura halibut lettuce wraps. Their cocktail list is presented in a descriptive, colorful catalog of boozy options ensuring that you'll return several more times to sip your way through the menu. In my opinion, a seat at the bar at Paradisaea is the ultimate date night spot. The Flower Pot Cafe and Bakery You'll likely find me and my daughter at The Flower Pot almost every Sunday morning for our weekly ritual of mother/daughter bonding time. We religiously order two iced hot chocolates (ie chocolate milk over ice), one chocolate croissant to share, one bean and cheese burrito, and one breakfast burrito which is normally stuffed with eggs and cheese but I like to add black beans for added protein. Although these are our all-time favorite items you can't go wrong with ordering anything on the menu. My husband loves their tuna sandwiches, while our two teen boys pretty much inhale any sandwich the kitchen staff prepares. This neighborhood cafe is the epitome of a neighborhood hub where locals lounge on the colorful front patio sipping on their lattes with friends and family. Amanda, the owner, is often there to greet her guests in a friendly manner. The staff here especially love furry friends and eagerly prepare puppuccinos (a cup of whipped cream) and hand out other tasty treats to their four-legged patrons. We have been loyal customers at their previous and current locations. It's been a year and a half of eating here almost every week and we're still not sick of it. Puesto I love the story behind Puesto which is the brainchild of La Jolla High School friends who opened up this neighborhood favorite together and have successfully expanded the concept to several locations. Whether you want to sit on the heated, expansive outdoor patio or in the colorful indoor space, you'll find a lively environment throughout. I think the food is good here, but not great. However, their margaritas and housemade chips, salsas, and guacamoles are insanely delicious and have me returning over and over again. This Mexican joint is a great go-to spot for a girl's night out, which is generally when I end up here because nothing pairs better with a little gossiping sesh with the gals than a mean margarita. Catania If I had to list my five favorite restaurants in all of San Diego, Catania would make that small list. I have loyally eaten here over a dozen times and would have dined here even more often except that getting a reservation here is quite challenging (so plan ahead!). The four dishes I must order every time I visit, and that are consistently extraordinary, are the Farmer's Market Green Salad, Wood Roasted Cauliflower, Arancini, and Wild Mushroom Pizza. The ingredients chosen to create these exceptional dishes are quite simple yet extremely fresh and favorable. The outdoor patio has gorgeous sunset views although I like eating inside so that I can admire the details that comprise the interior decor, which is warm and unpretentious. I'm making my next reservation at Catania the second I am done publishing this article. Manhattan of La Jolla Manhattan of La Jolla does a fantastic job of creating a mafia-era eatery with leather banquet seating, brick walls, a piano player, and a homemade New York cheesecake that will put any cheesecake made in New York to shame. At any moment it feels like Joe Gambino can walk through the doors. This is a lively restaurant with an eclectic mix of diners comprised of different age groups who seemingly flock from other neighborhoods for an enjoyable night out. As the night progresses you'll find people dancing to the tunes of the live singer in their suits and skimpy dresses. The ambiance here is simply pure fun. You'd expect an establishment like this to make superb cocktail, but sadly they do not. Stick to a simple drink, like a vodka tonic. The food is solid. Not amazing, but not disappointing either. The Caesar salad is prepared table side, which is a nice touch. Their desserts are the highlight of the menu so make sure to leave some room for this decadent experience. Although the restaurant is one of the few in La Jolla that remains bustling past 9:00 pm, expect the staff to politely ask you to wrap it up when they turn on the lights brightly at 10:30 pm. We lingered here with our friends over a three-and-a-half-hour dinner and would have stayed longer if we weren't reminded to leave. Manhattan is just the kind of space where you want to dawdle with a drink in hand, people-watch, and have an overall entertaining weekend night out. I look forward to delving into March with many more dishes in new places to bite into!

This year, as my blog continues to evolve, and my readership continues to grow, I decided to publish one article each month highlighting restaurants in San Diego to hopefully inspire others to get out and explore the culinary scene in this wonderful city that offers a plethora of dining options. In January, I had the pleasure of feasting in several restaurants for breakfast, brunch, lunch, and dinner. Some have delivered fantastic meals while others can use some guidance to better perfect the overall expertise required to deliver an outstanding foodie experience. Coffee Cup It took me a year before checking out this breakfast spot and now I'm hooked. This neighborhood staple offers wide offerings of both breakfast and lunch options to bite into on either the spacious outdoor patio or inside the quaint diner. I am addicted to their breakfast burrito and breakfast tamales. The Zen Breakfast healthily arranged with marinated tofu, brown rice, scrambled eggs, and steamed veggies is also especially delicious. There is so much on the extensive menu to look forward to, you'll find yourself returning repeatedly without running out of tasty new dishes to try. Amaya at The Fairmont Del Mar I find everything at The Fairmont Del Mar to be exquisite; from their grounds to their pools, their spa and their hiking trails, and certainly their weekend brunch at Amaya. You won't find a more glamorous patio to dine in than the one this California bistro boasts. The top-notch staff will ensure your meal is perfect from start to finish. Brunch is offered as a two or three-course menu with an unrivaled homemade punch list comprised of six interesting flavors to get your boozy brunch going. To start, I recommend either the chia seed pudding, steel-cut oats, avocado toast, or the freshly baked bread basket. All delectable. For the main course, I love the smoked salmon bagel although my dining partners really enjoyed the smash burger and chilaquiles. Come here for a Sunday afternoon and lazily linger as long as you'd like. You won't want to leave. Gold Finch Modern Delicatessen While offering a modern take on a Jewish deli, Gold Finch, delivers some non-traditional staples as well. The modern, minimalist decor loses some of the charm that come with the meshugaas that you'll find in a Jewish deli in Manhattan's Lower East Side but the menu is extremely creative and distinctive, so much so that I have eaten here four times since they opened last September. What makes this Jewish deli especially stand out is the menu's commitment to Ashkenazi Jewish cuisine while giving it an interesting Sephardic flare. First-timers must embark on the Jewish foodie journey by ordering the loaded giant latke topped with a fried egg, mushroom, broccoli rabe, caramelized onion, and horseradish labneh. My other favorite dishes include their green shakshuka or building the ultimate deli experience by ordering a bunch of sides that include egg salad, potato salad, Moroccan carrot salad, cucumber salad, and schmaltz crushed potatoes, of course, accompanied with a bagel basket with all the shmears. The location of this restaurant may feel a bit off the grid but once you figure out where it is you'll find yourself coming back again in no time. Craft and Taco Lounge Located in Escondido, Craft and Taco Lounge is my ultimate favorite San Diego discovery. I've craved this taco shop so often that I've have made the forty-five-minute journey three times to fulfill my desire to devour these exceptional concoctions that you're guaranteed not to find anywhere else. The Coco Loco is loaded with coconut shrimp, bay scallops, sweet and sour sauce, and sriracha aioli. El Pescado is equally outstanding combining tempura rockfish, strawberries, cabbage, raspberry salsa, chipotle, and cilantro serrano aioli. If these uncommon combinations are too wild for you try the Surf and Turf (with ribeye steak, grilled shrimp, pickled onion, sliced avocado, melted Oaxaca cheese, and salsa) or the El Camaron (stuffed with fried shrimp, cabbage mix, and tamarind chipotle salsa). Their chips and salsa are equally superior; perfectly crunchy and salty and generously served with three sides of homemade salsa ranging from mild to insanely spicy. Make the well-worth trek to this unassuming taco hut, grab a picnic table on the patio, sample as many tacos as possible from their extensive menu of twenty-one taco options, down each bite with a glass of wine or beer, and thank the taco ferries for blessing you with this divine experience. Kingfisher This popular San Diego newbie has lots of potential along with some hits and misses. I love the trendy, lively vibe and the ambitious French-influenced Vietnamese fare. The decor is super chic and the gorgeous bar which dominates the space is precisely where I recommend you sit for outstanding craft cocktails and a couple of truly appetizing bites. All the plates are beautifully presented but some are prepared better than others. The ones that are most memorable are the poached shrimp (served with green papaya, banana blossoms, kohlrabi, and cashews), the striped Baja sea bass (flawlessly cooked with mustard greens, green onions, crispy shallots, and a side of lemon buttered rice), and the vanilla flan which provides a decadent closure to your meal. Beyond these, the offerings range from just "ok" to downright inedible. The Vietnamese Curry is nothing special and resembles a curry you can order for takeout from your local Thai restaurant for half the price. Similarly, we were unimpressed with the diver scallops, halibut, and beet salad. The wild mushroom congee, a porridge-like mixture of mushrooms, garlic, egg yolk, and hot sauce had the diners at our table literally gagging. I would stay away from this dish entirely. I think once management works out its kinks, there is a lot of promise in Kingfisher. Until then, this is a superb date spot for delicious drinks, in a stunning setting, while noshing on the few enjoyable menu items I highly recommend you stick to for a great dining experience. Ambrogio by Acquarello While the $99, eight course vegetarian tasting menu at this Italian bistro is extremely inventive, sadly ambiance and good service is lacking in the small, sterile space. The owner is reminiscent of Chef Slowik from The Menu, on the brink of losing his sanity and seemingly ready to turn his diners into human s'mores to be torched. The mainly vegetable-based ingredients incorporated into the dishes are super fresh, masterfully made, and impeccably prepared. Unfortunately, management hasn't yet captured the essence of customer service or the importance of creating an environment that will make patrons want to stick around for the three-hour meal. Since they just recently opened, perhaps give them a few months for the owner to destress and come around to purchasing some flower vases, art for the walls, and a sound sytem to break the silence that permeates the main room. Please look out for my February Food Diary at the end of next month where I'll feature some other dining destinations that I will be exploring soon. If you have any favorite restaurants in San Diego that you recommend I visit, please send me a message!

We all hit moments in our lives when life feels overwhelming. Each and every one of us reaches a point, several times actually, when pushing through seems nearly impossible. Personally, I tend to thrive on having a full plate. I don't know how to sit still. I am constantly planning trips or events, hosting, working, managing my children's schedules, traveling, cooking, spending time with friends, and writing. My friends always tell me that they don't know how I make managing the many aspects of my life seem so effortless and my answer is always that it's because I genuinely love being a mom, wife, community leader, friend, fur mama, chef, writer, etc... What I don't enjoy is feeling like I am being taken for granted. When I begin feeling taken advantage of for all I happily do and give, then I slowly but surely reach my breaking point. As usual, there has been a lot that I have been taking care of lately. Despite the endless list of tasks I need to tackle each day, I continue to prioritize my children and spouse who have shown too many signs of not appreciating my constant efforts. I've been feeling drained and yearning to be reinvigorated. I will speak on behalf of women because I am a woman, and I am surrounded by wonderful, and often exhausted, females. There is no doubt about it, women are nurturers. We have an intrinsic need to take care of others. Yet we often forget to take care of ourselves. We stay in unhappy marriages and bad relationships. We allow raising children to drain us of every ounce of vitality that we desperately cling on to. We don't allow ourselves a break. So, what does one do when one has spread herself too thin? A dear friend of mine has reached her tipping point and started taking anti-depressants. Another close friend has embraced a routine of entirely ignoring her teenage children. Others get divorced from their spouses because the load life brings becomes too burdensome. Me, I prefer to take a shebbatical. This last Tuesday morning I woke up as usual, earlier than I needed to, to make my children a nutritious breakfast and lunch. Following this act of love, they each proceeded to take a turn attacking me with complaints while my husband was comfortably tucked in his office. One child insisted we leave the house at 7:58 am and got mad at me for not leaving until 8:00 am because I was waiting for another child who wanted a ride to school too, who then also proceeded to get upset with me because I left for drop off without him even though I waited for him, which in return made my daughter upset because we were two minutes late on her watch. Two of our boys ended up walking to school when suddenly a rain cloud called our bluff and released its pent-up angst. I urgently ran back to my car, getting soaked, in hopes of reaching my boys quickly enough to salvage them from being drenched in rainwater too. I was able to successfully rescue one child. The other sent me a text expressing his disappointment in me for making him walk in the rain. The morning's scenario was too much for me, and in a moment of truth, I booked an Airbnb, packed my bags, and checked into a house that would provide me with the peace and serenity that I needed for three glorious nights. I realized if I can't make everyone content, I should certainly try to make myself happy. Clearly, it wasn't the circumstances of the morning alone that pushed me to my brink. It was a wide variety of little things that added up and led to my ultimate escape. Although as women we are natural caretakers, it is still often difficult and exhausting, to relentlessly give while not receiving enough in return to refill the giving vessel. Ultimately it is up to us to fill up our tank. We are responsible for our own joy. It is always easier to recharge when we focus entirely on ourselves for long periods of time. Taking time away, by yourself, is crucial for your mental health. Keep in mind, that taking a shebbatical is not the same as embarking on a girls' weekend trip or traveling without your family to visit an old friend. These are both essential experiences in a woman's life but they do not provide the isolation and quiet that a shebbatical brings. In order for your sabbatical to work, you must clear your schedule and limit your interactions with others so that you can truly focus on yourself. Of course, you can continue working during your shebbatical, just create a space for yourself to come home to with no one in sight. Your friends' reactions to your sabbatical may reveal the kind of stigma that is associated with abandonment when in reality you are being accountable enough to take a break when needed most. My friends weren't particularly judgmental, they just didn't understand my choice or even know that a shebbatical is an option. One friend said that I "must be in pain", another asked if I am "getting a divorce", and another sincerely asked me if I "feel bad leaving the kids". No, no, no! Another close friend, who is truly a superwoman herself, ironically booked her own weekend getaway around the same time as me, said it best: "we are warriors who are replenishing before we march onwards". YES! We all need time off from the demands of life. We all need time to think and tap into who we are and what we need. We are all warriors who need to rejuvenate our souls in order to rally the troops. Don't let stigma or fear or guilt hold you back from finding yourself or clearing your mind. Use your resources to offer yourself the gift of time. When you begin feeling suffocated, you are allowed to remove yourself from the situation that is limiting your yogic breathing. During my four days alone I watched three movies on Netflix, enjoyed a deep tissue massage, had my first reflexology session, pampered my hands and feet with a manicure/pedicure, spoke to my parents and friends on the phone, read old journals that I packed along with me, watched the sunset, enjoyed strolls along the coast, stared into space, and thought a lot. I didn't need to set my alarm or cook any meals nor did I need to mentally coach myself to get through the day. Grownups need to have days with zero responsibilities too. My three nights were so therapeutic that I am already planning a way to take another shebbatical, this time a longer one. I am enjoying the time with myself. I like reacquainting with myself. I want to get to know myself better. I can only do this when I am not in my daily routine of cooking, mothering, working, planning, and filling up my days with too many distractions to just sit still for lengthy durations of time. Please don't feel stuck, selfish, guilty, or unable to remove yourself from your obligations once in a while. Some may not understand your decision, but it's only because they are drowning in their own miseries and don't see a way out. Instead, be proud and feel empowered that you are resourceful enough to make an escape from the daily grind a reality for yourself. Find a family member, husband, boyfriend, or friend, to watch the kids or the cats and leave before you implode. I want every single female reader of mine to leave this article inspired to take a shebbatical. Get to know yourself again, and thrive in the silence around you that will give you more clarity than you can ever achieve in any other situation. Model to your children that taking care of your needs is as important as taking care of theirs, and teach your husband that taking time apart is healthy. In fact, it is a requirement for both of your mental sanities. In my opinion, striving to be a woman who wears a badge of martyrship is not a worthy aspiration. There is nothing more wasteful than passing on your one opportunity in life to find your purpose while sacrificing yourself for others who inevitably leave you one day. What is noteworthy is permitting yourself to evolve, learn new things, meet new people, and visit new places but most importantly to get to know exactly who you are. It's nearly impossible to have any of these experiences if you are coming from a place of "stuck". I am here to tell you that your children will do just fine without you around for a few days or weeks, that your husband will attempt to fill your shoes only to realize how unfeasible this goal is and thus will hopefully appreciate you a tad more when you return, and that everything will remain the way you left it, albeit a little messier perhaps. The only major change will be the one in you when making the bold move to temporarily remove yourself from your daily routine. You will suddenly realize that you're a badass because you ascertain that you can break the norms and that you now have in the palm of your hand the secret to self-happiness because you too can take a shebbatical. Next time you feel fed up with your spouse, your kids, your friends, your parents, or even yourself allow yourself this time to replenish and restrategize. Consider this break mental training for the many inevitable battles ahead. Remember, you are a warrior and the world needs you at your strongest. Take a shebbatical.

One of the many things that I love about our new life in California is the neverending, greatly-varying landscapes that the state offers. Seriously, it's so easy to hop into a car here, drive a few hours, and explore completely different sceneries, over and over again. Last weekend we visited Catalina Island for two nights and we were blown away by this beautiful, little enclave that is only a ninety-minute ferry ride from the mainland. We truly felt a world away and I strongly suggest a visit to all those who find themselves in southern California. Avalon is the main hub on the island and is where most people tend to visit. However, on the other side of the mountain is Two Harbors, a less populated part of town that I would like to experience on our next visit. Two nights is a perfect amount of time to explore and savor Avalon. We arrived at Catalina at 11:00 am and took the 11:45 am return ferry, giving us a full 48 hours to roam, discover, eat, and relax. For those who prefer to add a Bison Tour (yes, there are wild bison on the island!), ziplining, or hiking to their agendas, a third night would be beneficial. Please enjoy my suggested itinerary below that ensures ample free time to truly get into vacation mode. Rent a golf cart. There are only two golf rental services ooptions on Avalon and reservations fill up fast during summertime. The longest you can rent a cart is for two hours. We used up every last second of our allotted time navigating up and down the steep mountainsides, soaking in the breathtaking views, and stopping to check out landmarks like Mt. Ada (the Wrigley's former mansion converted into an adult-only bed and breakfast- the Wrigley family still owns the island!). The vistas from the top of the mountain are beyond picturesque. Food! We all know that food plays a big role in a vacation. Sadly, Avalon does not offer dining that will satisfy most foodies. Set your expectations low, and you will be quite pleased. I did a lot of research to narrow down the best places to eat during our stay and although nothing knocked our socks off, the service in these restaurants was consistently fantastic and the food was solid. Blue Water Grill This restaurant is an Avalon favorite. Like most dining establishments on the island, reservations are not taken. If you don't want to wait over an hour to be seated, get there before the lunch rush. We had no problem being seated at 11:30 am. The menu is comprised of mostly seafood, and the white wine was perfectly chilled, but the views are what stand out most here. The Sand Trap This is a less-known establishment, up the mountain, away from the sea, and mostly visited by locals. It's an unpretentious and casual Mexican restaurant that makes a mean margarita and excellent nachos. We made a quick stop here while we had our golf cart. Otherwise, you'll need to take a taxi or make a long trek up the mountain on foot. Avalon Grille This is another visitors' favorite that fills up fast so it's best to get there on the early side to avoid the dinner rush. The biggest hit was the complimentary popcorn heavily seasoned with paprika- it's delicious! The menu offers classic American fare with lots of seafood and veggie options to enjoy with a beautiful view of the sea in the backdrop. The Pancake Cottage You'll likely have your best meal here although expect a long line. We were in a forty-five-minute cue for an early breakfast, but it was worth the wait! They serve everything here from Huevos Rancheros to pancakes to avocado toast, and it's all fantastic. Sailor's Delight Ice Cream Shop For an evening scoop, I can attest that this is the best ice cream on the island, perhaps even in Southern California! Their flavors are outrageously original and they let you order half scoops so you can try multiple flavors. If I had to choose, "Fat Elvis", was my favorite flavor; "peanut butter ice cream shook up with salted peanut butter ripple and rich chocolate chips"... I mean, can it get any better? There are many boutique hotels to choose from on Avalon. We chose The Avalon Hotel because of its excellent ratings and recommendations from others to stay there. It wasn't our cup of tea but I can see why others find it charming. Although we found the hotel to be a bit outdated, they offer some great perks like gorgeous views and decadent bath products. Otherwise, it's a pretty no-frills, humble lodging option in the heart of Avalon. For a more modern option, check out The Hotel Atwater or if you're traveling sans kids, splurge on Mt. Ada. Descanso Beach Club Spending an entire day at Descanso Beach Club was the highlight of my trip. We planted ourselves on our reserved lounge chairs for the entire seven hours the club is open. The modern design, isolated location, doting staff, and constant tunes playing, made us all feel like we were off somewhere exotic overseas. When we managed to pull ourselves off the lounge chair we enjoyed kayaking, swimming, having lunch at the restaurant, and playing in the sprawling, grass field. Please note- reserve your lounge chairs ahead of time, seating sells out fast. Catalina is a special place for immediate recharging. Surrounded by sea, sun, and stunning landscapes, along with charming architecture, you'll surely love strolling the island in your flip-flops. Everything and everyone is casual here and you'll also find that everyone walks around with a big smile on their face. It's practically impossible not to have a great time during this magical escape.

In November I randomly had the idea to bring people together through a drumming circle. My husband thought I was nuts, but I'm always full of nutty ideas and luckily he tends to follow my lead. I am not a drummer. Nor are the vast majority of our friends. But I do always love to try new experiences and thought a drumming circle could be fun. Boy was I right! What is a drumming circle? It's a community of people flowing together to magically create a rhythm. Since none of us are experts, we have an instructor facilitating the group who starts us off with some beats and then we all jump in when the timing feels just right and contribute whatever energetically comes out of our hands. It may sound a little hippy-dippy. I'm ok with you calling it what you wish, just know that when we're in our zone, and everyone's eyes are closed while our bodies sway to the sounds we create together, there's really no word to describe it but magic. Each month our circle evolves. There is always a handful of regulars and there are always newbies. There is also always a waitlist because space is limited. I never expected that there would be such a strong response. I'll tell you more about why I believe that these are so successful. Our monthly circles have formed a strong sense of community. Although my husband and I personally invite our friends and know all the attendees, our friends don't all know each other and they have the opportunity to musically mingle with new people every month. We not only make music and new friends, we also make monthly memories together. Many of you know that meaningful memory-making is my life mission. These monthly jams unite an eclectic group of human beings that may not normally reach out to one another. The ages range from people in their twenties to their sixties. We have a former airforce pilot, a fitness instructor, physicians and scientists in various fields, housewives, entrepreneurs, lawyers, university professors, an administrative assistant, and even a great guy that has literally been in every Burning Man-like event throughout the world. There is no barrier or hierarchy to tackle when everyone's intention is to join forces with a common purpose in mind. There is something about knowing that you are about to embark on a musical journey that sets a tone of gratitude. We all begin the evening with a sense of belonging, love, and appreciation for one another that you don't generally receive at a dinner table. Introducing others to new experiences is one of the greatest gifts you can offer your friends. I am amazed to see grownups who are open enough to be vulnerable and pick up new melodic gadgets, with names that are impossible to remember (it's quite scary playing an instrument that you don't know how to play or pronounce!). Somehow, when everyone lets their guard down, the cadence serendipitously comes together. Ironically, even though most of us don't have any drumming experience, we become so in tune with one another that the tempo we create is perfectly harmonious, euphoric really. I always end our sessions feeling high. There is a future for our circle. My goal is to encourage participants to begin thinking about purchasing their own drums, tambourines, or maracas so that when the weather gets warmer, and the days are longer, we all head to the sand and drum the sun to sleep. I envision others who come across us being inspired and joining our rhythmic group. I see this drumming circle expanding into a wider community. More joy. More love. Please remember, when you have some crazy, random idea that you are actually excited about - go for it! All it took was me searching for an instructor who can provide instruments and organize the event. People are thirsty for new opportunities. The effort it takes to set up a new experience for others is minimal, yet the return is monumental. See you on the sand!

It's been exactly one year since we moved into our new home in La Jolla, CA. It's been sixteen and a half months since we left New York City, our home for twenty-two years, bringing us to now celebrating an anniversary of calling La Jolla our home. Maybe it's been even longer. We fled NYC in March of 2020, when Covid broke out, to seek safety in a secluded home in Long Island for three months and then hit the road exploring The United States for ten months, only to go back to NYC for two months, with the sole intention of packing our lives up, to relocate to La Jolla, taking another three-week road trip making our way back across the country. I know, that's a full load! When we arrived in La Jolla, we lived in a temporary home for four months, and then, finally, we moved into our current home exactly one year ago today, on December 15, 2021. What a journey! After so many beds, homes, and suitcases packed and unpacked, it felt so good to finally hang our photographs and resurrect sentimental artifacts from the past to proudly display in our new abode. After a full orbit around the sun, I contemplate what we left behind versus where we now call home. Below are my personal pros of living in La Jolla versus the pros of living in NYC. (Note: La Jolla is a small municipality within the city of San Diego so I will be referring to these areas interchangeably.) Pros of living in La Jolla: The People: The people that live in this community mark the most significant difference between the two cities. La Jollans are welcoming, happy, inclusive, and most noticeably, no matter how successful they are in their careers (and they are very successful in their careers), they just don't have the same chip on their shoulders that New Yorkers do. We literally did not know what people did for a living until we hung out with them several times, because hardly anyone inquires or cares what anyone does for a living here. In NYC, the question immediately asked when meeting someone new is "what do you do for a living?". New Yorkers size one another up, openly compete over whose life is busier, and shamelessly ask you for a dinner date four months in advance. La Jollans could care less what you do, they are confident enough behind the wheels of their Ferraris, or under surgical lights performing open-heart surgery. To sum it up, the folks in La Jolla have nothing to prove. Somehow, they are never too busy for a drink, a walk, a party, or a dinner date. Planning for something more than a month in advance here is a ludicrous concept. While New Yorkers boast about who they rub elbows with or their SoHo House memberships, they'll rarely actually make an introduction with the supposed people they are close to nor help you join the club they rave about. Yet, in La Jolla, we were immediately introduced to the most incredible network of kind, fun, accomplished people who will only mention their club memberships in the context of helping you join. People in La Jolla share their friends, their contacts, and even their money. New Yorkers are very protective of these things. The Politics: Our kids attended a very progressive private school in NYC. Over the years as parents making friends with other parents in that school, we learned that there were many in the closet Republicans in the school's community. In NYC you are often shamed for not sharing the same political views as the masses. I literally know a husband who told me in confidence that he voted for Trump in fear of retribution from his wife. New Yorkers tend to be very extreme on their political spectrum. In La Jolla, most people are centrist, normal, unaggressive, moderate folks who genuinely want to help others and support social justice programs while protecting themselves from a meddling government. In fact, I have witnessed many civil conversations between left-winged and right-winged-minded people that entailed no judgment, name-calling, or even an ounce of tension as they hashed out their differences of opinions. You are free to think and believe what you want here, openly. And what I love most of all is that no one seems to have a need to display their political thoughts on their lawns with flags or signs, or pins on their lapels, which tend to ultimately alienate and create a community of exclusion. People truly don't care if you are vaccinated against Covid, or not, or how many boosters you've had, if any. You'll find people on both spectrums of vaccination status and no one is concerned with what others' personal choices are. There is no requirement to conform here. The Weather: Ok, this one's a no-brainer. With an average temperature that hits between 62-72 degrees throughout the year, under 263 days of glorious sunny skies, it's crystal clear why most people are happier here. However, contrary to popular belief, although it does not snow in La Jolla, we do have seasons. As I type this post, it is 51 degrees, and very cold... there is a legitimate winter here (okay, not compared to New York but I swear it gets cold). Fall and Winter tend to be the rainy season, which La Jollans warmly welcome. I won't lie, there is nothing that I miss about snow in NYC. I remember getting the kids ready for school, in their endless winter gear, just to be greeted by filthy piles of snow clumped in grey sadness and adorned with yellow bursts of dog urine and not-so-artistically placed cigarette butts on our walk. Snow is beautiful...in Tahoe. The School System: Once we left the private school system and joined the public school system in NYC we quickly learned that getting into a top public school is as difficult as getting into a coveted private school. The stress that parents and students endure getting into a reputable public school in NYC surpasses the stress of getting your kid into college because in New York City you have to go through the unwieldy process three times: once for middle school and then again for high school and then finally for college. In La Jolla, there is one middle school and one high school. There is zero stress around preparing for an admission spot. Middle School kids can enjoy their middle-school years without the stress of continuously preparing for high school. There are no required test preps for entrance exams or crazy lottery systems leaving a computer to randomly assign a school to a child. Instead, your kids just get to be kids, and instead of graduating from elementary school and seeing their friends get scattered throughout the city based on the schools they get accepted to, they move on with them to the high school that is only one block away. The Food: Yes, while NYC is unsurpassable with the endless creativity of cuisine and culinary talent, and countless Michelin-starred restaurants, San Diego's produce is unequivocally the freshest I have ever tasted. I never knew what a cucumber or strawberry actually tastes like until I moved here. Side note, San Diego has an incredible food scene, and its own list of Michelin-starred restaurants, albeit way smaller than New York City's, but the main difference here is that you don't need to pull favors or set your alarm at midnight for the night the calendar opens at a restaurant to snag a table. Instead, you can pretty much get in anywhere within a month's notice. The Pace: The pace in La Jolla is unbelievably different than the one in NYC. Even though you may find yourself busy with life in La Jolla, you aren't constantly stressed out because you are sitting in a taxi for forty-five minutes for a five-mile journey, nor will you find yourself standing desperately in the rain for what seems like hours waiting for an Uber or taxi on a rainy evening. We lived in our last apartment in NYC for eleven years. I can attest that most neighbors who entered the elevator ignored one another. In La Jolla, everyone cheerfully says good morning, stops you to pet your dog, and you actually know and hang out with your neighbors. (Caveat: we do have neighbors from NYC that we have been close friends with for over ten years and they too left NYC for a west coast move to Los Angeles). In La Jolla I can post a story on Instagram offering the yields of a harvest from our garden and ten La Jollans will reply that they'd love some fruit and come by to pick up a bag. In NYC you'll have twenty people responding that they'd love a bag but none of them will actually ever pick it up, although they'd boast to all their friends about their cool friend with citrus trees. I often walk in La Jolla along the coast, I watch sunsets in La Jolla, I walk our dog in La Jolla (I would never have agreed to have a dog in NYC), I talk on the phone with friends rather than texting them, I go on weekend hikes with my girlfriends. The pace here is unarguably slower, in the best way possible. Everything is just "Twenty Minutes Away": This is so true. I can easily list a bunch of neighborhoods that are just a twenty-minute drive from La Jolla: Coronado Island, Little Italy, Downtown San Diego, Del Mar, Carmel Valley, Ocean Beach, Balboa Park, Mission Beach, UTC, Hillcrest, etc... It's so easy to hop in your car here and arrive to an entirely different neighborhood with its own unique vibe. In New York City, what should be just a twenty-minute commute can often turn out to be way longer. Commuting in NYC requires a strategy. In La Jolla commuting just requires that you get in your car. Let's take a look at longer drives as well. In NYC the most popular local escapes are The Hamptons (which takes anywhere from 2-5 hours to get to depending on the season), and "Upstate" (which is generally a 2-3 hour drive). In La Jolla, within an hour you can drive to Laguna Beach or Rosarito, Mexico, or the wine region of Temecula Valley. Within ninety minutes you can get to Orange County/Balboa Island/Newport Beach or you can escape to Julian or Mount Laguna for some snow in the winter. In two hours you can get to Los Angeles or the beautiful deserts of Palm Springs. Despite the 25,000 miles we drove through the USA, we barely made a dent in what is accessible to La Jolla within just a two hours drive. Pros of living in New York City: It's the city that never sleeps: You can find anything you crave at any hour of the day in New York City. It is a remarkably convenient city in this aspect. La Jolla on the other hand shuts down ridiculously early. I am talking like 9:30 pm early. If you crave pizza past this time, you'll have to drive eight minutes to Pacific Beach. Even there they close by midnight. You'll be forced into living a more sedate nightlife here but then again in La Jolla, we have amazing house parties that go way into the wee hours of the morning. Just saying. A Hub of Culture: New York City is the epicenter of culture, known for its music scene, renowned museums, and of course, Broadway. Yes, this is an extremely desirable aspect of NYC but let's be honest, how often do NYC locals splurge on a Broadway show that costs a minimum of $350 per ticket? I lived in NYC for twenty-two years and visited MoMa maybe four times and the Metropolitan Museum maybe six times. What I am saying is that it's not like most New Yorkers frequent these venues so often. They just like knowing that they are there. In La Jolla, we have The Conrad, The La Jolla Playhouse, and also the Old Forge (which is not in La Jolla, but close) which I frequent just as irregularly. So unless you are an art buff or have endless supplies of cash to book orchestra seats for your family to watch a Broadway show together, I think you'll do just fine in La Jolla. Travel: Oh boy do New Yorkers like to travel. When we lived in Manhattan we hopped on a plane every chance we could, along with most of our friends and colleagues. La Jollans like to stay put. Very few of them talk about travel plans. In fact, whenever we have asked others what they are doing on a school break, they mostly stay local. Now that we have been here for a year, I realize that people actually like it here and don't dream of going anywhere else. In retrospect, although yes, we absolutely love to travel, in NYC we had to get away as much as possible for the sake of our sanity. We've been living in La Jolla since August 1, 2021, and haven't gotten on a plane since. Living here I feel like we should travel, not need to escape. Regardless, New Yorkers are more well-traveled. Sports: Okay, yes, San Diego has the Padres but I'll agree that you cannot compete with New York City in the sports department. From the Knicks to the New York Mets/Yankees or the Giants/Jets, NYC is unrivaled when it comes to the sports department. I'll be the first one to admit, if you want sports leagues in your life, San Diego is not the place for you. So, there you have it, my insider's perspective all wrapped up in one article. New York gave us an incredible couple of decades filled with wonderful memories, friends, and opportunities. I will always love it dearly. I have yet to yearn for a return for a visit although it has been almost one and a half years since we left. For now, I found a better place for me, for this chapter of my life. I don't miss the hustle, or the grind, of living in the big city. I don't miss the seasons that come with too many cloudy, cold, rainy days or extreme heat. I don't miss floating around with very busy people. Really, La Jolla truly does offer everything anyone could ever need. I guess that's why locals love to call it Paradise.

Playa Del Carmen is a Mexican coastal resort town on the Riviera Maya, approximately one hour south of Cancun. In my opinion, you come here to plant yourself alongside the Caribbean Sea to swim, sip cocktails, soak in the sun, and do not much more. For those of you who dare get restless after a leisurely day of swimming in warm, turquoise waters and lounging by the pool, you can hit Quinta Avenida. The long, pedestrian road is jam-packed with restaurants, shops, and bars. It especially comes to life at night once everyone recovers from a day of seaside laziness. Playa Del Carmen is a perfect destination to unwind, and guiltlessly do nothing but linger in your swimsuit as the day goes by. Grand Hyatt Playa Del Carmen Resort: There are many excursions you can book when in the area; like a day visit to Cozumel, sunset sails, snorkeling, etc. Yet, based on my travel experiences, you'll want to book a stay at The Grand Hyatt and never step foot off the property. You can choose from a multitude of infinity pools to lounge by or just walk a few steps to connect with the sea. The onsite restaurants are quite impressive, the staff caters to the guests' every whim, and frankly, this seaside resort is stunning. There are entertaining events held throughout the day like aquatic Zumba or an evening traditional Mayan ritual dance. There is an arcade, a full-service spa, a gift shop, three fantastic restaurants, and a cafe. Mostly, there is an ambiance of ultimate relaxation as the design of the hotel is soothing at every corner. This is an unpretentious luxury hotel where you come to escape and be well-pampered. Hotel Rooms: The rooms are clean and well-appointed with especially spacious closets and bathrooms. Sitting on the large, well-furnished balconies while hearing the waves crashing is pure bliss. Onsite Restaurants: La Cocina Their buffet breakfast is the best. Not only will you dine by the sea, but you will encounter a spread of food like nothing you've seen before. There is an entire cereal bar with a variety of freshly baked bread, seasonal fruits, granola, yogurts, and a waffle station. Then there is a whole hot food station with salmon, ravioli, hashbrowns, breakfast meats, frijoles, eggs, and a scrumptious chilaquiles station. There is a taco station. There's even a station for six or seven homemade salsas ranging from mild to super hot. If this isn't enough for even the most glutenous, there is also a spread of delicious assorted pastries, cheeses, salads, cold-cut meats, lox, and spreads. La Cocina's breakfast is truly a breakfast for champions. Pool Menu Often times pool menus are "eh" but not at the Grand Hyatt. Each umbrella gets a snazzy call button attached to it so that food and drinks can be ordered at the push of a button. Their nachos are a must. You'll also love their Caprese sandwiches, Mexican salad, fried cauliflower, and smoothies. If these items don't strike your fancy you can choose from burgers, quesadillas, BLTs, ceviches, wraps, etc. The hotel really supports every craving and most importantly, they make it really easy, and tempting, to stay put by the pool. The Grill at 1 26 The menu here specializes in Italian dishes, sushi, and steaks. An interesting combo indeed yet somehow they pull it off perfectly. Everything is presented beautifully and from appetizers to desserts, you'll be more than happy that you ate here from start to finish. Sushi N Raw The sushi rolls and poke bowls served here are surprisingly tasty. I'm not a big fan of sushi abroad but I can confidently recommend that you dine here for really fresh seafood with surrounding striking views. Paseo Bar This open-aired bar is friendly and inviting. It's definitely a worthwhile stop for post-dinner drinks. I don't have much else to share about Playa Del Carmen. Honestly, it was impossible to pull me away from the pool and the ocean. Ok, except for once when I got a thirty-minute massage for $30 USD in a nearby outdoor hut with the ocean breeze hugging my body and house music pumping the air. While writing this, I almost feel like this article is more of an ad for the Grand Hyatt but rest assured that I have not been compensated for this post in any way. I am sure other blogs offer more interesting insights about what to do and see while visiting this part of the Riviera Maya. Based on my traveling expertise, specifically throughout the region, I strongly suggest you visit for three or four nights, stay at the Grand Hyatt and do nothing but indulge your every desire. There's something special to be said about flying to a destination to decompress and stare into the bluest skies and waters all day long with nothing scheduled on your calendar to distract you from the stillness.

Pronounced “hol-bosh", Isla Holbox is one of those best-kept secrets that you too can experience with just a two-hour drive north of Cancun and an additional thirty-minute ferry ride. As I write this article, I am hesitant to share with you that this magical island even exists in fear that too many of you will read about it, visit it, and fall madly in love with it, as I did. Yet, I will dutifully share everything I can about this stunning spot, because it would truly be a sin to keep it from you! Holbox is reminiscent of Tulum with the main difference being that it's a remote island that is not as easy to get to and that it hasn't been discovered by droves of tourists, yet. The restaurants, bars, and shops exude a bohemian vibe yet in an upscale sort of way. Let's call it boho-chic. This is a car-free, open-aired island where roads do not exist. The streets are made of sand and flip-flops are the only necessity. Many Mexicans, Brits, Aussies, French, and Germans gravitate to this island but you will certainly bump into some Americans as well. The food is fantastic. Like, I mean, this is truly a haven for all you foodies. There is tons to explore on the island, including nature reserves. Holbox will leave you wanting more of it and I will confidently make the assumption that most visitors make return visits. Take the Holbox Express You'll drive two hours to Chiquila from Cancun for a 30-minute ferry to Holbox. You can buy tickets at the ferry terminal stand. Be prepared, they do not accept any credit cards or one hundred dollar bills. A roundtrip ticket costs $24 per person. The fleet has both upper deck and indoor seating and leaves Chiquila every hour on the half hour. Get on the Taxi Line Once your ferry docks on the island, you will be greeted by taxis waiting to take you to your destination. The taxis on the island are golf carts and they only drive three passengers per cart. While the locals in Holbox are extremely friendly, we found the taxi drivers to be less warm and they will often try to charge you more than they should. Always ask your hotel how much a specific ride should cost so that you know how much you should actually pay versus how much they will try to charge you. Getting around the island on a golf cart is so much fun! Stay at Casa Astral You'll love your stay at Casa Astral. The hotel is not located in the center of town. Rather, it is a ten-minute walk from the bustling center which ensures that you will get great sleep. The service of the staff is wonderful. You can text the staff directly through WhatsApp with any request that you have. They will help with ordering taxis, renting golf carts, making restaurant reservations, or stocking your room with whatever you need. The rooms are clean and spacious. They have large two-bedroom units with three king-sized beds, two full bathrooms, and one-half bathroom which is perfect for a family or group. The rooftop has stunning views of the sea with an infinity pool, bar, and hammocks. If you want to be in the heart of the main square, this may not be the right choice for you. However, if you like to retreat to a quiet space at the end of the day with the beach just steps away, Casa Astral is a great choice. Where to Eat You will be amazed by the plethora of restaurants and bars that dot the sand and spill onto the town center of this tiny island. Each of the eateries below has great decor, a vibrant ambiance, stellar service, and terrific food. Make sure to couple your meal with a mezcalito, a favorite cocktail on the island. Mr. Happy (breakfast) No one can possibly leave Mr. Happy unhappy. The menu offers an extensive juice and smoothie list along with fresh and healthy dishes to be enjoyed in the retro-designed space under a beautiful palapa. Clandestino Cafe (breakfast) Their freshly baked pastries and espresso bar that whips up a mean cappuccino will win you over instantly. You'll have a hard time deciding what to order so I suggest that you order a bunch of dishes to share otherwise you may find yourself leaving with serious FOMO. Painapol (breakfast) Painapol uses the freshest fruit to masterfully create artistic bites. Every dish is served with an abundance of fruits or veggies so you can leave resting assured you hit your quota for the day. There's even a wishing well in the dining room where you'll likely catch yourself wishing you could possibly consume more of their delicious dishes. El Velero (lunch) The highlight on their menu is the Baja fish tacos that are served with a potato wedge inside the taco. This simple touch adds so much flavor you may order a second round and even make a second visit for lunch as we did. This is a perfect destination to eat with your toes in the sand, staring at the sea, while you keep repeating "this is soooo good" after each bite. Roots (lunch) Isla Holbox loves its mezcalitos but the island really takes pride in its lobster pizzas. You'll have to try this local's favorite recipe at least once during your visit and Roots is the best place to pop your cherry. The pizzas are outstanding, especially with the three homemade sauces that are served along with them to drizzle on for an extra touch of flavor. Great music lingers in the air while you dine under the lit trees and pinch yourself for finding the best lobster pizza on the island. Maizstro (lunch) Laid back eatery with reggae music and a unique menu bring together locals and tourists alike. Birria, a traditional Mexican dish of goat or beef stew, is the star of the show here and is offered in many unique ways but there are plenty of yummy vegetarian dishes to choose from too. Salma (dinner) Salma's sultry vibe makes it a perfect dinner destination. The main space of the restaurant has up close views of the masterful chefs in action in the central wood fire kitchen which pumps out insanely delicious grilled dishes. Highlights are the roasted beet salad, grilled artichoke, and squash in roasted tomato sauce. Skulls, swings, and candles lit over layers of dripped wax work well together to create a seductive scene with sensational cuisine. Luuma (dinner) Luuma offers a clubby atmosphere in its dimly lit, open-aired courtyard complete with a sandy floor and jungle music vibes all tucked in what can be mistaken for a secret garden. This tapas eatery artistically presents its internationally influenced bite-sized foods. The onion croquettes are a must! K'u' (drinks) K'U' is the epitome of boho-chic and tends to draw a beautiful crowd of well-dressed patrons. This beachfront bar and restaurant is uber-alluring and cannot be missed during your visit. Viva Zapata (drinks) Viva Zapata has a long, lively bar lined with swings and tall stools. The bartenders are chatty and take pride in serving craft cocktails. You'll find it on the more casual side as the owners don't seem to be aiming for chic. This is simply put a fun and vivacious bar for afternoon drinks. Fun Things to Do: Obviously, if you're in Holbox you'll want to swim in the pristine waters as much as possible. Let's say you hit some rainy days, like we did, during December's dry season, or should you find yourself needing an escape from the sun, here are fun some ideas to give you the full island experience. Volunteer at Refugio Animal Hospital Ever dream of having an adorable pooch for the day while you are on vacation? At Refugio you can fulfill this dream while actually helping out this animal rescue shelter. You can take one, or more, of their dogs for as long as you'd like to give them some love and long walks by the beach and through town. Volunteering will never feel so good! Rent a UTV or Golf Cart for the Day (Especially a Rainy Day) While December is known as the dry season in Holbox, we still got stuck with two pretty wet days on the island. It is important to know that the island does not have any drainage systems so when it rains, large lake-sized puddles are formed making it practically impossible to walk anywhere unless you want to trek through almost knee-level mud. Golf-cart rentals, which offer the most popular form of transportation, shut down on rainy days in fear of renters getting stuck in the muddy waters. In the rain, your only alternatives will be to hire a taxi, walk through the muck, or rent a UTV. With a UTV you can explore the entire island, with the added thrill of driving through deep water. It's quite an adventurous way to roll through Holbox. Walk along Yum Balam Coast to Punta Cocos Look up the tide schedule, ditch your flip-flops, and walk along the Yum Balam coast towards Punta Cocos for a piece of Paradise. You'll barely see humans in sight but you will instead come across an abundance of wildlife. Explore Punta Cocos at Low Tide Exploring Punta Cocos may possibly be the highlight of your visit to Holbox. This part of the island is pristine, untouched, and really breathtaking. During low tide, you can wade through the aqua waters towards a sand bar and fully experience what it's like to have no care in the world. Take a Self-Guided Walking Tour to Search for Murals Isla Holbox has more than ninety vibrant murals scattered throughout the island. Embark on an artistic journey and see how many you can find. HERE is a self-guided tour we used. You'll want to plan for at least three nights in Holbox, ideally five. The laid-back island vibe is contagious and will overtake you instantly. This is a magical island that you will dream about visiting again and again. It forces you to conform to its rules: be happy, eat well, reenergize, repeat. Holbox is simplicity at its finest. Just make sure to pack your rain boots because those muddy lakes post-rain may set you back from enjoying everything the island offers. Yet even in the rain, it's perfection. As I write this last sentence, I am already planning our next visit.